For partners
Nobody asked how you were doing.
We're asking.
You're the partner. The father. The person someone leaned on. Your grief counts too — and almost nothing in the world is built for it. This is.
What partners often experience
Being expected to be strong, to handle logistics, to hold someone else up — while having nowhere to put your own grief.
Feeling sidelined in your own loss. Hearing condolences directed at your partner, not at you.
Grieving differently than your partner — and worrying you're doing it wrong.
Wanting to say the right thing and being terrified you'll say the wrong one.